“But as surely as God is faithful, our message to you is not ‘Yes’ and ‘No.’” (2 Corinthians 1:18)
Paul writes, “Do you think I make my plans carelessly? Do you think I am like people of the world who say ‘Yes’ when they really mean ‘No’? As surely as God is faithful, our word to you does not waver” (vv.17-18).
Paul had learned to set boundaries on his relationships, and you must do the same. A wise man said, “Never complain about what you permit.” Unless you set boundaries, you have no right to complain about people who take advantage of you and waste your time.
“Jesus … does not waver between ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ … He always does what He says” (v. 19). And as His follower, you must learn when it’s appropriate to say yes and when it’s appropriate to say no.
When people back you into a corner, confront them promptly, privately, and personally. And if they won’t listen, take someone with you. And if they won’t listen to both of you, take it to the church leadership (see Matthew 18:15-17). Be clear about what you will and won’t tolerate. In the words of the country song, “You’ve got to stand for something or you’ll fall for anything.”
Get comfortable praying and voicing your wishes and preferences without fear of rejection and alienation.
Prayer
Lord, strengthen my resolve in difficult times to clearly follow Your path in this world, and let me always declare my faith in You and Your promises, and in the free gift of eternal life through Your Son, Jesus.
Stay encouraged!
Pastor Mike
