“The kind answer calms the mood, but the harsh answer increases the anger.” (Proverbs 15:1, PDT)
Have you noticed that we human beings have a tendency to imitate the emotions of the people we interact with? The reason we do this is because of the mirror neurons in your brain. They allow you to sympathize and also reflect what other people feel.
For example, if someone gets mad at you, you respond with anger. If someone is very depressed and you hang out with that person frequently, you will end up depressed.
In the same way, when people raise their voices at you, you usually answer with an even louder tone of voice. So they raise their voice louder and you raise yours even louder. Then suddenly everything escalates and your emotions are out of control.
The Bible says: “A kind answer calms down, but a harsh answer increases anger” (Proverbs 15:1, PDT).
Let me give you a little advice that will save you a lot of heartache and conflict in your life: When other people raise their voice, lower yours — in your marriage, in parenting, with your friends, and at work. That is called strength under control.
Kindness defuses conflict. Reduce anger.
Here’s a good verse you’re going to need someday — maybe even this week. Ecclesiastes 10:4 says, “If your boss gets mad at you, don’t quit your job! A serene spirit can overcome great mistakes” (NLT).
When your boss attacks you or your spouse raises their voice in anger, you need to realize that it may not have anything to do with you. Instead of getting defensive, practice gentleness. Let your kind response disarm the other person and defuse the situation.
Lord, lead me to be calm in my dealings with others around me, even when things aren’t calm. Help me to be a better child in Your kingdom. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.