“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.” (Proverbs 19:11, NIV)
Some people always want their own way. They’ve got a right way and a wrong way to do something, and your way is always the wrong way. When you don’t meet their standards, they’re going to let you know about it. And it always seems you can never quite please them.
So how do you respond in love to demanding people? The Bible tells us that patience comes from perspective: “A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense” (Proverbs 19:11, NIV). The more you understand a person — their background, battles, and burdens — the more patient you’re going to be with them.
We often look at people and think, “Look how far they have to go.” But we don’t stop and say, “I wonder how far they’ve come?” Maybe they were raised in a family where they had no model of kindness or courtesy. Maybe they grew up in a very dysfunctional home, and it’s a miracle, really, that they made it this far. What are the burdens they’re carrying? They may be sick. They may have a family issue. They may have just lost their job. There are all kinds of battles and burdens people carry that you and I don’t know about.
Proverbs 19:11 tells us to overlook offenses. Do you overlook offenses, or are you offended by offenses? Are you so touchy and irritable that you’re offended by anybody who looks at you funny or forgets to say something or doesn’t see you? Love lets it go.
The Bible says, “Do to others as you would have them do to you” (Luke 6:31, NIV). Love is understanding, not demanding — and it’s what you would want others to do to you when you’re having a bad day or don’t feel well or are carrying heavy burdens.
Does that mean you’re just supposed to let people run over you? Do you just let them push you around? Do you act like a doormat, cave in, and let them say whatever they want?
No. Here’s the key: Be tender without surrender. Jesus never caved in to manipulators — the religious leaders and Pharisees who were extremely demanding and legalistic. They had all kinds of demands that they themselves couldn’t even keep. But Jesus did not let demanding people push him into a corner.
Prayer
Lord, grant me Your grace to be patient and loving to those around me, and let me mirror the kindness and mercy You have shown me when I have failed. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Stay encouraged!
Pastor Mike
