“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29)
The apostle Paul writes, “Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them” (Ephesians 4:29). Eugene Peterson paraphrases it this way: “Say only what helps, each word a gift.” Think of the people you most enjoy spending time with. How would you describe them? Grumpy? Bitter? Negative? Of course not! They’re celebrators, not complainers. They’re passionate about life.
As you live this day, realize that everyone you meet, you will leave: 1) better off; 2) worse off; 3) unaffected. The way to build others up is to see them as opportunities instead of obstacles or obligations.
One leadership expert writes: “One of the best things you can do for people — which also attracts them to you — is to expect the best of them. I call it putting a ’10’ on everyone’s head. It helps others think more highly of themselves, and at the same time it also helps you.” A survey of one hundred self-made multi-millionaires showed only one common denominator. These highly successful men and women routinely looked for the best in people.
Benjamin Disraeli, one of Britain’s finest prime ministers, put it this way: “The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own.” And you do that by appreciating, encouraging, and helping others to reach their potential. Napoleon described leaders as “dealers in hope”. He understood that hope is one of the greatest of all possessions.
If you can be the person who bestows that gift on others, they’ll not only be attracted to you, they’ll be forever grateful.
Heavenly Father, help me be an instrument that helps people develop to their highest potential that You created them to be. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.