“Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.” (Romans 15:2)
Albert Schweitzer once said, “I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.”
Are others naturally attracted to you? Are you well liked? If not, it may be because of:
- Pride. Nobody wants to follow someone who thinks they’re better than everyone else.
- Insecurity. If you are uncomfortable with who you are, others will be too.
- Moodiness. When people never know what to expect from you, they stop expecting anything.
- Perfectionism. Others respect the desire for excellence but dread unrealistic expectations.
- Cynicism. People don’t want to be rained on by someone who sees a cloud around every silver lining.
So, how do you build people up?
- Change your focus. If you’re self-centered, you can’t strengthen and encourage others. So observe your interaction with people during the next few days. As you talk to them, notice how much of your conversation is about you, then determine to tip the balance in favor of focusing on others.
- Try to make a good first impression. The next time you meet someone, learn their name, focus on their interests, listen to them without interrupting, and be encouraging. If you can do this for one day, you can do it every day.
The Bible says, “Strength is for service, not status. Each one of us needs to look after the good of people around us, asking ourselves, ‘How can I help?'”
Heavenly Father, help me have God honoring motivations in building others up to serve others so that You can be honored. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.